I have a major sleeping disorder. It forces me to be awake until I cant keep my eyes open anymore. However tonight was one of those times where I felt like I was waiting for something. Sure enough around 3 Leta was having an emergency that she needed my advice over. Thank God for Superpowers. I don't know what this gift of His is really called, nor do I really care. I'm just so glad I have it. It has saved my life more than I can count, my friends lives and their piece of mind. I've also been ready for tough things that come my way more than I would have been without my superpowers.


Superpower note: something Big is coming...Not today, not tomorrow, not this year...but in the next few something world changing will happen, and my friends and I will be in the middle of it. Now we just have to watch and wait.

Why is it that there are some people that cannot feel good about themselves or be comfortable with their life if they aren't destroying or degrading someone else's? I have met very few people like this however they DO exist and they can turn a perfectly wondeful day into something you wish was over and forgotten. They can make you feel bad about yourself and you not even realize its really them that are messed up. They subtely make you notice your own imperfections and failngs so you think that there are really major things wrong with you. If you aren't carefuly it will have a bigger impact on you than it should unless you can either let it go or have someone near you that loves you that can pinpoint the stupidity of their statements.


How to Spot a Jackass Complex Play(JCP):

-They talk to you FIRST and instantly have something to say that is not a positive.

-They bring up things that don't make any sense to confuse you out of logical thinking.

-They are overly nice about it but seem to make compliments or comments that make you feel bad about yourself.

-They do this at odd random times when you are not expecting it and not on your guard, such as late at night, early in the morning, or when you are really happy from a good week.

-They pretend to attempt to finish the conversation while you keep trying to defend yourself.

-They continue to put you down and "pretend" to finish the conversation - while adding snide comments to worsen the situation.

-You are the always the last person to say something....making you feel small, and insignificant as they "ignore" your last defense.

-they do this on purpose bc naturally a person wants the last word....so you will try to get it. By giving it to you they still have the ball in their court to choose to continue the assault on your internal confidence.

-they will do this after not talking to you for long periods of time...kind of like their own little shot of self confidence when they are low. You are just there to bring them up in a slow time.



All this leaves you depressed, feeling wanting, and wishing you could do something to remember how happy you were before speaking to them. This is natural after someone has done this, particularly if they are very good at doing it. If they are a professional you will not know they have done this to you until after it has happened and you are now in the gutter feeling as if you do, in fact, belong there.


HOW TO FIX YOURSELF AFTER THIS PLAY HAS HAPPENED TO YOU:

-Take deep breaths

-Think about what you were thinking about before they started talking to you. What were you doing? What were you thinking? Did you have plans to do in a few minutes before they were interrupted.

-Think of what some of your emotionally strong friends would say to them if the said Jackass Complex was there.

-Think of the things they made you feel bad about logically. Find ways of contesting them. (eg. The Jackass Complex made you feel ugly...think of a time you felt gorgeous.)(eg. The Jackass Complex made you feel stupid....think of a time you felt really proud of yourself)

-Realize that The Jackass Complex is the one that made you feel this way, that nothing they said is real, and that they are A JACKASS.

One day I'll find acronyms for both of these lists to remember them, until then just try to remember that
"NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL INFERIOR WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT" -Eleanor Roosevelt

Heres to the guys that:

always open doors

never lie about love

always tell us we look beautiful

call us when we are having a bad day

cook for us when we are tired

give us massages when we are sore from working too hard

take us out when we've been stuck inside for too long

put down the vid game controller to look at us if a serious question is asked

dance in the kitchen for no reason, and sometimes to no music

that talk on the phone way more than they really want to

have our back when others would put a knife there

that would not try to flirt with us when we've just had our heart broken, and instead offer words of comfort

that never sneak glances at other girls while we arent looking

to guy friends that always offer a shoulder without a boobgraze...

TO THE GENTLEMEN AND NICE GUYS THAT USUALLY FINISH LAST...

HERES TO YOU

The best addition to the Marvel Movie Series since the first Spiderman! The hero was no underdog but still managed to be everything he should be to fill the shoes of a "superhero". He started out as a rich self centered business man and reevaluated his standing in life. He made a 180 and started worrying about what he could to do help those less fortunate than him and thus was born IRONMAN.

The villain was just as corrupted and vile as an audience needs in order to triumph with the hero at the demise of evil. Movies lately have become prone to a habit of making the audience feel sorry for the villain. I'm sorry but that just does not sell in a good old fashioned superhero movie where it is classically "Good vs. Evil".

If Marvel keeps up this streak of talent they might redeem the film slump they have been in since Superman and Spiderman 3 hit rock bottom.

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If you would rather contact me privately feel free to do that also.

-Doc Choc